Emotions can run high in the span of planning a wedding, whether they're yours, your family members' or those of your friends. Almost everyone close to you will be involved — meaning there are a lot of people to be considerate of, as your time line unfolds.
What's key is understanding how involved everyone wants to be. This was difficult for me, because I wanted my wedding — and planning — to be as easy as possible for family and friends. To me, that meant limiting who I delegated work to, and trying to just let people enjoy the parties.
I am spoiled with having two bridal showers: one in Colorado thrown by my mom and my maid of honor; and the second here in Omaha, thrown by my future mother-in-law and my personal attendant. For both parties, I stepped back from the planning to allow the hosts to make the parties as unique and special as they are.
In doing that, I got to be surprised. My bridal shower in Colorado was a Pajama Brunch theme! I would never have done anything like that for myself, and it was awesome.
A few things made it unique and fun:
- We all wore different types of pajamas and slippers.
- All my gifts were personal. They included beauty products, workout essentials and gifts that reminded my friends of me. It was really special to see that.
- We played games of who knew the groom/bride best. My favorite game was guessing who brought what pairs of panties!
- We had a brunch buffet.
- We snapped pics in front of a photo wall.
- And we had personalized M&M’s with a picture of Evan and me on them!
That day was a dream.
But as fun as the surprise may be, sometimes the magnitude of planning can put extra stress on others. Be aware of things people have going on in their own lives. Ask the host if you can help with anything or recruit a friend or family member to lend an extra hand.
Communication with everyone is key. Your shower hosts may not need help, for example, but it’s helpful if that is communicated, to prevent others in your circle from feeling left out. Hurt feelings are the last thing you want!
Your wedding is about you and your fiancé. But remember the people who have shared their lives with you as well. This time is just as special to them as it is to you, and they want to celebrate every step of the way, too.