Mom - get over yourself - your kid is a thief and it has nothing to do with color. Teach him the appropriate lessons at home and you won't have to worry about what behavior he exhibits while not at home. Shame on him.
Shirley was my Administrative support for a time at First Data and was one of the kindest, most considerate and helpful souls. We remained friends outside of work for many years after that - my deepest sympathies to her entire family.