I remember fondly the days when my night didn’t start until after 10 p.m. They were the enjoy-the-evening-with-friends and be-out-all-night-and-never-seem-to-tire-out days. I could manage well with very little sleep.
Today I'm older with children, and 10 p.m. might as well be the new 3 a.m. It ain’t happening. I proudly go to bed before the 9 p.m. news.
There is no shame in this game.
So how did this "habitude" come into play? I liken it to the saying, "A body in motion stays in motion." As a mother, that is the ultimate fact. Once the kids are up, the body stays in motion — working, cleaning, making dinner, doing laundry, chasing kids, potty training, attending dance lessons for the 5-year-old, walking the dog, bath time, grocery shopping or the never-ending dishes routine. I feel like I rarely just sit, and because of this, any sort of meditation is unbearably difficult.
That is the tribe called motherhood — endless exhaustion and stuff to do. There's just never enough time. By the end of the evening after my husband and I place our beautiful children to bed for the umpteenth time, I’m exhausted. On any given day I’m already asleep by 8 p.m. And because I only have the ability to stay up for 15-minute increments, I’ve restarted the same show four times in one week.
I read a study that shows children who have earlier bedtimes have happier parents. It’s science! Kids who are asleep by 8:30 p.m. tend to have a healthier and happier quality of life, thus giving moms and dads much needed free time to do as they please.
Got it. Kids in bed early. Happy mom and happy dad.
We’ve all heard about sleep charts and know how much sleep our little ones should receive. So where is the study for moms who juggle mental and physical loads day in and day out? Where is OUR study? What happens when mom legit cannot keep her eyes open? (Dads gets to watch all the dude movies and dude shows in the world. My husband seems rather pleased with his nighttime routine lately.)
Turns out there is sweet relief — and it’s called the weekend. On weekends, I nap. On weekends, my husband can see his wife past 8:30 p.m. (generally with red wine lips...is it possible Cabernet has caffeine in it?). Shouldn’t all adults have the ability to nap every day? What a beautiful world we would live in if all adults had an adequate amount of rest?
One day I’ll feel well rested, but until then...wine and coffee will just have to do to see me through.
Kristine Rohwer is a marketing professional who resides in Omaha, Nebraska with her husband and three children. Founder of Elkhorn Family, you can follow her page on Facebook.