I’m fairly certain I know why I have one child of each gender — I wasn’t born with the matching gene.
It's obvious that two kids of the same gender would be wasted on me. There'd be no matching Easter dresses, no little boys in matching sweaters and button-up shirts at Christmas.
Take our family pictures last fall as the perfect example. My 7-year-old daughter wore a dress similar to those fancy dresses worn to a school dance, and my 3-year-old son wore a plain blue T-shirt and skinny jeans. It was indicative of both their personalities, and I loved it. It didn't bother me at all that they didn't match whatsoever. Plus, I didn’t have to buy anything new! (Cue the bells ringing!)
Matching just isn’t my thing, and with having one of each, I knew it wasn’t something I had to worry about. Several times over the last few years, I've thought (with great relief) about not having to worry about matching my kids.
Boy was I wrong.
The joke is on me because my kids WANT to match each other! (Insert various emojis here.) They ask for matching pajamas. My son wants to wear a hand-me-down Elsa dress when his sister wears one. My phone is full of photos of them looking so darn cute and matching!
How did this happen?
On top of this, my daughter and her friend, who is a neighbor and close family friend who we are with more often than not, want to match. So now I’m coordinating with another mom to buy clothes so that our daughters can match. And my son and their son also like to have matching pajamas. So now we are coordinating for four kids to bring the correct pajamas on vacation.
With kids, you truly can’t win.
It really does crack me up because parenting is all about how just when you think you nailed something, you’re wrong. Just when I thought I was lucky because I didn’t have to find outfits that matched, I was so wrong.
So next time you think you’ve gotten lucky because you get to reuse your daughter’s clothes for the next kid, think again because it’s inevitable that your kids or the universe will outsmart you. Good luck!