Time Magazine: Is it selfish to not want kids?


“Time” is back at it — ruffling feathers — again.

The magazine upset some readers when it displayed a mom breastfeeding her 3.5 year-old son on the cover of its May 21, 2012 issue. The kicker: the headline read, “Are You Mom Enough?”

Here we go again…

For its August issue, the magazine featured a carefree couple with a headline that read: “The Childfree Life – When having it all means not having children”.

The cover story outlines how the birthrate in the U.S. is the lowest in recorded American history. It explains that according to a 2010 Pew Research report, childlessness has risen across all racial and ethnic groups, adding up to about 1 in 5 American women who end their childbearing years maternity-free, compared with 1 in 10 in the 1970s.

The great debate inside this piece: whether or not womanhood equates to motherhood.

After last summer’s breast-feeding story, moms were left feeling like they weren’t “mom enough” if they didn’t nurse their child(ren).

This summer, women now wonder if they’re selfish for choosing to remain child free.

Isn’t living in America grand? Where we’ve got nothing better to do than question other people’s choices?

Time Magazine’s latest effort to sell more issues, while simultaneously stirring the pot, is shameful.

Come on, people. We’re better than this.

Women, in particular, let’s rise above this.

There are millions of women who silently suffer infertility. If you didn’t know that the successful woman who lives down the street from you dealt with such struggles, would you falsely assume she’s selfish because she’s “chosen” to live a childless life?

And what if she did make a choice not to have children, why is that your concern?

Am I sometimes envious of women who travel the world, pursue their dreams (without hesitation), and can do whatever they please with the money they’ve earned through hard work and sacrifice? Absolutely.

Would I trade my experience of being a mom for such carefree living? Absolutely not.

Being a mom doesn’t make me feel better. It makes me feel blessed.

If I missed the point of the “Time” article, I apologize. I won’t be purchasing a subscription to read it in its entirety.

I would love to hear other’s opinions on the matter.

Heidi Woodard is a working-mom with three children.

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