Question: My 5-year-old son is an only child whom I homeschool. He talks back, argues and generally wears me down. I need help getting to him to realize that no is no, that I mean what I say. I know I’m the problem. Help!
Answer: Better that you have come to grips now with the fact that you are the problem than when he’s much older and these difficulties have acquired much more momentum. Before giving you some advice, I have to repeat what I’ve said several times before in this column: I do not recommend homeschooling when the child in question is disobedient, disrespectful and generally difficult to “control.” Pre-existing discipline problems are counterproductive to an effective homeschool environment. Discipline problems should be solved before homeschooling is attempted. So the first recommendation I’m going to tender for your consideration is that you send your son to “regular” school until you get his behavior under control.