Dear Annie: I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We both have children from our previous relationships and share custody with our exes. Until recently, we had our kids on the same weekends. Then my boyfriend’s ex decided that her children cannot be here when my 11-year-old son is staying over.
Because my son is the oldest, he tends to be blamed whenever the kids do inappropriate things. But kids pick up all kinds of things in school, from other kids and adults. I feel my son is being blamed unfairly. My boyfriend’s ex doesn’t know me or my children. I have heard her children say and do things they should not be allowed to do, but I seem to be the only one who notices. My boyfriend makes excuses for their behavior, but if my children misbehave, he is quick to let me know that I need to discipline them.