Dear Annie: I am a 35-year-old man. Years ago, my mother developed a bad habit. Whenever I was in the passenger side of the car, if she stopped short, she would put her arm against my chest to prevent me from going through the windshield. This infuriated me. I’m already wearing a seatbelt, and there is no way a woman her size could protect me. Every time she did this, I would yell, “Keep your hands on the wheel!” Eventually, she stopped.
My mother has always looked for ways to control me. She complains about every problem under the sun, and when I offer a workable solution, she says, “Well, some people can’t afford to do those things,” and we end up arguing. Her arguments are always stupid, and she’ll flip sides to make me look like the aggressor. It’s very manipulative and makes me furious.