Dear Annie: I've been friends with “Jane” and “Carol” since college. Unfortunately, since her mom died well over a decade ago, Jane has become a hermit. She is distant, and whenever we make plans, she makes an excuse at the very last minute to cancel on us. We're frustrated.
While I can sympathize with her terrible loss, I feel she needs to move on and start living again. She can't hide in her room forever. Carol and I are not sure how to approach this. We want to be sensitive to Jane's feelings but at the same time get her to realize that she has friends and family who love her and want to spend time with her. What should we do?