Dear Annie: My wife and I have been happily married for 27 years. We are both in our early 50s, physically fit and active. My wife looks the same today as the day we married. She’s extremely attractive. The problem? She has no sex drive. She never really has. But in the past few years, her cold shoulders seem much more pronounced.
We currently have sex maybe once every two weeks. She seems to enjoy it once things get rolling. But when I ask why she prefers such infrequent encounters, she says “it’s too much work” and she “doesn’t have the need for it” like I do. The two times per month are great. But the other 28 days are frustrating. I would like more intimacy in our marriage and have asked her for it. But it doesn’t seem to be an issue with her, and she’s not particularly sensitive to my needs.