Dear Annie: After 35 years of marriage, my abusive husband asked for a divorce. I had stayed for the children’s sake, but now I know that was a mistake. Children grow up thinking abuse is normal.
Since the divorce, I have fallen in love with “Derek.” Derek and his ex-wife both engaged in affairs when the going got rough. Derek has been totally honest with me about this. He’s in counseling and is committed to being a better man.