Dear Annie: My husband and I are expecting our second child. When our first was born, my in-laws (who live out of town) visited shortly after the birth, and it was awful. They tried to separate me from our baby to have alone time with him. And instead of helping out, they created additional work, even though I was still recovering from the birth.
I don’t want to shut them out but would like the first visit to take place at least a month after the baby is born. My husband is understanding but likes to please his family. How can I tactfully schedule a visit to preserve both my sanity and my relationship with my husband’s family?