Dear Annie: I’d give anything to be intimate with my wife, in any form. We’ve been married for 18 years. We have not made love in more than three. We also don’t hold hands, hug, kiss or cuddle. We have pleasant conversations, and I would classify us as compatible roommates.
My wife once had a very active libido, but there was a decline in sexual frequency after the birth of our second child. We had many conversations about it, but she and I both attributed it to crazy schedules and her moderate weight gain. She lost the weight, and in the meantime, I gained 65 pounds.