Dear Annie: My wife died five years ago. Two years ago, I met “Lorna,” and I recently asked her to marry me. I feel strongly that personal assets that are brought into a marriage should be protected. I made this clear to Lorna early in our relationship and got the impression that she would agree to a prenup.
I’ve been very successful financially. Lorna has few assets and a lot of debt. She says a prenuptial agreement makes her feel that our marriage is of a lesser quality than my first. I have tried to explain to her as gently as I can that this isn’t the case. It took my first wife and me 20 years to acquire what we had. It would kill me to risk that and have to start over when I’m 60.